Chilling Out

phliiz — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 02:02:38 +0000

I know that in my last post, I talked about how I usually make up my own life lessons and that although my Dad started the whole thing, I made them up too. However, recently my dad talked to me about one that is bigger and more important than others have been, and I know it probably can help me out a lot. It’s mostly about humans’ reflex to get into their “fighting stance” when they are threatened or wronged, and why that reflex is bad. I’m not talking about actually getting your body in a position to punch or kick someone, but when you react in a certain way to stuff. If we all could learn to chill out, then we could stop problems before they start. At school, there is one teacher I have had some squabbles with. One day in his/her class, I was having a bad day, and because of that, I had been behaving poorly and was ready to just get out of there as soon as I could. When there was about 1-2 minutes left of class time, the teacher gave us time to work on an assignment for homework. I decided not to work on it and to clean up my things to get ready to leave. This particular teacher had had problems with me staying too long in her class trying to clean up my stuff. I thought I was doing something nice, but she didn’t like it and thought I was just wasting her time. This is when I got really mad, and started to yell, saying that I was trying to do something nice, and stuff like that. She got really mad and yelled at me too, and I was thankful when the bell rang a second later. Well, I know that acting like that was not good, and that I was the one at fault in that situation. By letting anger seep into me when the teacher said something to me, I reacted in a violent way, which only led to a worse situation. After other situations where I felt bad because something had happened where someone had been mean or something, my dad helped me realize that, although I wasn’t blatantly trying to start a fight, if I could just calm down, I could stop these kind of things before they happened. It is all human nature to be angry when we are threatened or in an uncomfortable situation, but since we are civilized, we need to “put off the natural man” and control ourselves. I need to keep working on that, because if on that day with the teacher I had sat back, calmed down, and done what she had said then we all would have been happier and in a better place then we are now. In other times, I just need to sort of breathe deeply and/or think before I do what it is I want to do or say. If I think about most of the things that have happened to me, I can understand and realize that if I had just calmed down, and responded in a way that was not aggressive or meant to hurt the person, then the conflicts could have solved in a relatively easy way, and all of us could be happier. Now, I don’t just want to be a preacher, because that’s something I also hate; I really don’t like it when people talk about something and how we can all be better and they don’t do it. No, I’m seriously going to be doing this as well, because I know that with it I can be a lot better and a lot happier. So yeah.

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phliiz — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 12:58:31 +0000

Okay here goes. This is my first life lesson I’m going to talk about, and I hope this sort of like works out for what I’m trying to do. Well, for anybody who doesn’t know what a life lesson is, it is like sort of a little thing that you remember that will help you in life. My dad always used to tell me, “This is a life lesson,” and stuff like that whenever I got in trouble or was mad at someone. One time I got in trouble not for doing anything but for being with someone when he did something bad. But now, I make up my own life lessons, mostly from mistakes I make that I don’t want to make again. Okay, here’s one that I hate. It just really bothers me and I don’t like it. Lots of times, when I used to eat in the cafeteria, I would put my lunchbox down on the table in front of the place I wanted to sit, then go wash my hands, so they would be clean before I ate. Then, when I get back to the table, there are more people sitting there. One is sitting in my seat, and my lunchbox has been pushed all the way to the end of the table. I haven’t ever been bold enough to say “Excuse me, but I was sitting there,” and I really should. When I end up at the end of the table, I end up not being able to hear anybody else talking, because the discussion is in the middle or the end of the table. I hate that. So here, the lesson is, “Guard your spot until there are everyone else is seated.” Or else you’ll end up away from everybody, stuck in a seat you hate.

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Chilling Out

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